Tuesday, September, 14, 10

The Problem With Commenting

Filed under: a moment in my head — theradishpress @ 10:49 am

by theradishpress

I tend to not comment on message boards or blog entries when I take issue with what is being said. The reason is that the internet is the perfect place to not have a real conversation. Apparently message boards and comment spaces are perfect places for everyone to reveal the asshole sides of themselves. Or maybe they really are assholes. I guess it has to do with the fact that chances are you will never meet this person or have an actual face to face, so why not be able to say whatever the hell you want to them?

I used to comment heavily on imdb message boards, getting into online arguments about Disney movies and racism and sexism and whatever other topics I found important. I learned fairly quickly that not only was it pretty pointless to get into these arguments, but I also stopped reading message boards almost entirely. There is inevitably some jackass who has to post a topic about why they think casting a black actor as a vampire, for example, does not make sense because vampires are all pale. I see. When you don your white sheets are they at least 400 count thread? I would hate for your skin to get irritated when you’re posting these important issues online.

I bring it up because I recently commented on a blog I like, kinda calling them out on something I read as a low blow insult, and then saw today all these people replying to me saying I cannot take a joke and am clearly the one in the wrong blah blah blah. Sure, for a second, I thought about replying and being “more clear,” but what is the point? I know from having to deal with people primarily over email at my job that tone is almost non-existent in the digital world. Often, when you write with tone, it does not matter. The reader interprets as they will. And so, in this particular instance, perhaps I did misunderstand the tone. Though, I am going to just say no I did not and folks don’t like to be called out on any instances of bobo. Myself included.

Talking about things like race, sex, class, sexuality, and so on can be difficult enough in person. Most folks would rather not talk about any of these things, or at least keep them on the surface. And trying to draw connections between them, forget it. That doesn’t mean it’s not worth talking about. I do it all the time. I make people uncomfortable, and I could care less. But to be able to go back and revisit conversations is important too, and that is not so easy to accomplish online.

All this said, and I know I will at times be moved to write what I think on the blogs I read. But I think I will mainly keep it to comments indicating my appreciation, or to share things I think the author may enjoy. I don’t have time for nonsense, especially from people far far away.



  1. Oh then… this is awkward.

    Comment by InfoMofo — Tuesday, September, 14, 10 @ 12:23 pm | Reply

    • Should we start a comment war?

      Comment by theradishpress — Tuesday, September, 14, 10 @ 2:22 pm | Reply

      • whoa calm down there.

        Comment by InfoMofo — Tuesday, September, 14, 10 @ 2:27 pm

  2. I am sorry, it is impossible for me to interpret your tone. Therefore, I shall assume you are insulting me. Pistols. At dusk.

    Comment by theradishpress — Tuesday, September, 14, 10 @ 2:59 pm | Reply

    • I’m taking the Sweig Bag to Cali at Dusk. Better make it next week.

      Comment by InfoMofo — Tuesday, September, 14, 10 @ 3:04 pm | Reply

      • I see, using that as an excuse are we?

        Comment by theradishpress — Tuesday, September, 14, 10 @ 3:57 pm

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